I’ve heard the phrase many times “what you focus on, you create”. I had an interesting experience yesterday with my children….they were just plain awful in their behavior. After they had gone to bed, I sat in my bed and cried because I had spent the night yelling and threatening. They went to bed hurt and I went to bed angry. Now, most parents will say, been there, done that….it’s part of parenthood. I agree, but what is disturbing to me is the thoughts that had been playing on my mind that day that I was not consciously aware of, and that I see now, had a huge impact on my behavior as well as my children’s.
I realize I had been focusing on the lack of money, the inability to pay certain bills at the moment, my desire to pay for lessons for my children, but struggling to decide which ones, then feeling guilty for not being able to do more. Then, my thoughts moved into…”you are such a bad mom, your children are so neglected, they’re not going to grow up to amount to much because you haven’t given them all these opportunities….” What!? If what we focus on becomes our reality and every thought has energy that can be felt and passed on….then no wonder last night was so awful. I was just creating the reality ” I am a bad mom” and “my children are neglected” and my children were just literally tuning in to that negative energy and reacting.
I know to some that this may seem completely off and cuckoo….but for me it makes sense. The days that I am calm and positive in my mind and heart, my children are also. We are powerful beings and everything we think and say has energy and effects us and those around us. So my encouragement is….stay focused on the positive, speak with the power of love and conviction and stay consciously aware of what is playing on the stage of your mind! When you begin to recognize that you are letting your mind run rampant with negative thoughts, say STOP. Begin to say what you are grateful for and let yourself FEEL gratitude for those things. Gratitude is powerful positive energy and can change things quickly. Thinking and saying positive affirmations is another way to keep your mind focused on the positive. I’ve noticed the more I focus on what’s going well, what I am grateful for and take the time to talk positive to myself, the more at peace I am and the more able I am to create calm in my mind and my life, and that feels GREAT!
What do you do to keep your mind focused on the positive?