Focus

I’ve heard the phrase many times “what you focus on, you create”.  I had an interesting experience yesterday with my children….they were just plain awful in their behavior. After they had gone to bed, I sat in my bed and cried because I had spent the night yelling and threatening. They went to bed hurt and I went to bed angry. Now, most parents will say, been there, done that….it’s part of parenthood. I agree, but what is disturbing to me is the thoughts that had been playing on my mind that day that I was not consciously aware of, and that I see now, had a huge impact on my behavior as well as my children’s.
I realize I had been focusing on the lack of money, the inability to pay certain bills at the moment, my desire to pay for lessons for my children, but struggling to decide which ones, then feeling guilty for not being able to do more. Then, my thoughts moved into…”you are such a bad mom, your children are so neglected, they’re not going to grow up to amount to much because you haven’t given them all these opportunities….” What!? If what we focus on becomes our reality and every thought has energy that can be felt and passed on….then no wonder last night was so awful.  I was just creating the reality ” I am a bad mom” and “my children are neglected” and my children were just literally tuning in to that negative energy and reacting.

I know to some that this may seem completely off and cuckoo….but for me it makes sense.  The days that I am calm and positive in my mind and heart, my children are also.  We are powerful beings and everything we think and say has energy and effects us and those around us.  So my encouragement is….stay focused on the positive, speak with the power of love and conviction and stay consciously aware of what is playing on the stage of your mind!  When you begin to recognize that you are letting your mind run rampant with negative thoughts,  say STOP.  Begin to say what you are grateful for and let yourself FEEL gratitude for those things.  Gratitude is powerful positive energy and can change things quickly.  Thinking and saying positive affirmations is another way to keep your mind focused on the positive.  I’ve noticed the more I focus on what’s going well, what I am grateful for and take the time to talk positive to myself, the more at peace I am and the more able I am to create calm in my mind and my life, and that feels GREAT!

What do you do to keep your mind focused on the positive?

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In the Uphill Climb

As I reflect today on the past couple of weeks and as I have been asked to pass thru some difficult challenges at this time, these are the thoughts that have rested upon me:

It is in the midst of our greatest trials and struggles that the potential for higher learning is great. If we will but turn to our Lord and humble ourselves before him, and plead for his guidance…we will be taught, tutored and comforted. These are the teaching grounds of life and when we choose to learn from the challenge and let the pain teach us, we will be blessed with understandings beyond our own comprehension. In this, the challenging times are a gift and a literal preparation for us to reach higher and be taught and tutored by the Lord in a no other way then when we are humbled and on our knees searching for the answers. It is in the hunger for relief, the hunger to understand, the hunger to be comforted, that we are then fed…. because we are ready and we need it and we will know what to do with it. In this, I am thankful for an all loving and merciful Father who has set the path, the way, and lovingly allows the experiences that we need for us to grow in stature and in true happiness, by allowing these challenges to come time and time again.

If you have ever wondered if there is a God who loves you, if you have a purpose in this life, or why life seems like an uphill journey for you most of the time…..let me just bear witness that there is a God, who is LOVE and loves all and if your life is an uphill battle, it is a manifestation of His love for you. He has a message for you, He sees your greatness and is calling it out, He is calling you out….to come to Him. Come and kneel at His feet, cry out to Him and learn from Him. Let him teach you and love on you and heal you. Then stand tall and keep moving forward and share the love and lessons with others.